Here are a few issues that I thought id dispell upon after having multiple conversations with people and subsequently becomming angry aboutt what came out of their mouths. smh.
The other day i was talking to my boy, and when i disclosed to him that I was done with being single and messin around and what not he called me crazy and said that because I was in college i was SUPPOSED to just live it up and have my fun and that relationships can't last in college.
PAUSE: Lets think about this for a second. I agree with this PARTIALLY. I think its essential for everyone to have as much time as they need to get everything out of their system before they finally settle down and cool their jets. BUT it is in NO way impossible to have a solid relationship in college. Everyone is different. Some need to be on their own, make mistakes and mature/grow older and wiser before they can finally give their all to somebody. ALSO. I have a lot of older guy friends/family members and the consensus seems to be that the older you get the more dating becomes a business. Instead of looking for that one person who they love and cherish, as you get older it becomes the person that can provide financially, the person who will compliment your lifestyle and career choice, the person that will look good at company parties. Its sad, but its so true. Dont get me wrong, people still find love at older ages, it jus becomes increasingly difficult with age. Its an age old dillema, People fall in love in their early years, lets say around high school or college and because they arent ready for a lifetime commitment they let that person go, fastforward 10 years later, and that person you let go is getting married to someone else, you realize they were the one, and you are all alone. SHIT SUCKS. Now my question is, where is all of the messing around, being on that playa playa status gonna land you? The answer is: ALONE. If you do find someone to marry, you will most likely convince yourself that you are in fact in love with this person when in reality, you are subconsciously convincing yourself of this.You build a life with that person that you have CONVINCED yourself that you love and maybe it works out for you, and mayb it ends up in divorce. who knows. but honestly wouldn't you have been better off with that person that you KNEW you loved back in the days instead of the person you convinced yourself that you loved. What i'm trying to say is, dont hold back your feelings for sumbody for fear of giving up that lifestyle that you feel you HAVE to live due to the atmosphere that you presently find yourself in.You will live to regeret it.
Next topic on the burner: Cheating. (*WINCE*TWITCH*SHUDDER*)
My boy the other day (god love him) said that "some girls overreact to their man cheating"
--->(haitian accent)WOOOOOiiiii MESAMI. Can i just say that if a man where to EVER cheat on me...id FUCK HIS SHIT UP then id fuck THE BITCH UP then id key his car, then id slash his tires, then id cut off his dick and put it down the garbage disposal. If u are with me ur with me and only me.
Okayyy ok. maybe that was a lil DRAMATIC of me. I probably wouldnt do ALL of the things listed above because i'd probaly get arrested before i could carry out all of the tasks...but honestly If u wanna stick ur dick in sumthin else that isnt me, thats fine. break up with me first, be a man and keep it real, let me know that you're not mature enough for a relationship and you aren't done being a lil boy and being on ur playa playa status. I'll respect your decision, you can do you, and i'll do me. ITS A MATTER OF RESPECT. If i take him back..who's to say he wont do it again. Human nature is to test other humans, subconsciously once u realize that the girl has taken you back, in the back of your mind you'll be more tempted to do it again hoping for the same outcome. Bottom line: I dont fair well with cheaters. =) Cheating is the ultimate fuck you in a relationship. And the excuses like "baby i was drunk" "baby it didnt mean n e thing." "baby i love you" baby, baby BABY. NIGGA SHUT THE FUCK UP. Sex is ALWAYS premediated in some way shape or form. Your dinky doesnt jus randomly end up in hole on its own. The shrugging of your shoulders and that childish look on your face as you say "oops!" doesnt cut it. For real though fellas. Its understandable. WE ALL HAVE NEEDS. but damn. If it comes to the point where your girl can't satisfy these needs have a convo with her, have her dress up as a french maid or sumthin (oo la la) SPICE SHIT UP. If that isnt the problem mayb its time to end the relationship. Just dont let it get to the point where you have to cheat on her. That not only makes her look FUCKIN DUMB cuz she's over there thinking you care about her, its a strike to your personality and the type of man you are. Personally, if a guy used me to cheat on his girlfriend (which would be completely innocent on my part cuz i wouldnt have any idea that he had a girl) and I found out? I'd cut him off REAL quick. If he was able to cheat on his girl with me, its obvious WE wouldnt be goin n e where either.
Disclaimer: Yes people do make mistakes, but it is important for people whose mistakes are cheating to realize that there is something wrong with it and to try to correct it. Find the souree of it whether its deeply rooted in somethin within you or its just that you are bored. The worse thing to do when you've made a mistake is to get defensive about it and to repress the fact that you actually shouldn't have done it. Making excuses for yourself or blamming someone else for your mistakes are fullproof ways in ensuring that you'll never change.
Issue Number 3
GIRLS THAT ARE MAD CLINGY
Ok so my bffl for life told me that the reason why he's still single is the fact that girls are mad clingy and get mad if their man dont make every breathing moment about them and that girls in general ask for too much..
---> My answer to this is STOP FUCKIN WITH WACK ASS BITCHES.
Just like ya'll don't like for us to say that ALL men are this or ALL men are that. Dont say that the fact that your single has to do with the fact that ALL girls are clingy or w.e. THATS FALSE. Yeah there are some girls out there who FORCE THEIR LIVES but honestly there are guys out there who are on the same status. Personally i like a man who is on his own shit academically, socially, mentally, and financially. I dont want every waking moment to be spent on me, I got my own shit to do. Dont get me wrong, its nice to know that someone is thinkin about you with a quick text that says "baby i love you call u later tonite' WE GREW UP WITH THIS TECHNOLOGY. It takes about 5 seconds max to send that. not long at all. Now its a diff story if i know u aint got SHIT to do and you're just ignoring me. But. then the case would be that i wouldn't be with ur ass cuz i want a man thats productive. As do most of my ladies out there (get it girls!) As for my clingy ladies out there. give it up. It may have been cute at the beginin of the relationship when the guy was jus tryna smash or when he legit jus thought u were being cute. Let it go, if you have enough time on your hands to make the man ur one and only focus throughout the day you have some serious reevaluation of your life to do. As to the guys who use this as an excuse as to why ur still single. Save it for the next broad and think harder cuz this excuse isn't cuttin it.
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